Friendships can change in your teenage years.
Group dynamics shift.
Personalities change.
You start a new school, college, or go to uni, and don’t know anyone.
Your bestie starts dating and forgets you exist for a while…
If you’re in your teens and want to make new friends, but you’re not sure how, read on!
Do you always sit next to the same person in class?
It’s hard to branch out and meet new friends when you see the same people every day. New hobbies, part time jobs and volunteering are opportunities to meet new people and see them regularly. You also end up with shared experiences to talk about.
Maybe you have a close-knit group of friends, but you want to add more to your squad. Or perhaps you have friends who don’t know each other, with no core friendship group. You can be the one to introduce these people to each other. Your new mates will appreciate the way you made them feel included.
Does your group have one person who always organises everything? Do you spend a lot of time worrying about whether you’ll be invited or not?
Some people seem to be natural organisers. They’re confident enough to start that group convo and to risk rejection when they invite friends to hang out. They’re organised enough to make plans. But sometimes, these organisers like being invited by someone else for a change!
If you’ve never organised anything before, keep it short and simple. If you’re shy, it helps to have an activity to focus on. Something low pressure like a game of frisbee in the park or going to a free event together.
Worried about upsetting the person who normally organises things? Invite them first! Scared of rejection? Try inviting new friends to something social you were going to do anyway, like joining a youth club together. That way, it’s a bonus if they come along.
Useful conversation starters for making friends as a teenager:
Making new friends can feel scary as a teenager, but it’s a life skill that’s well worth stepping out of your comfort zone to learn.